Capacity, beyond resilience
What changes when we question the expectation that capable women should be able to absorb everything?
Speaking & corporate work
Let’s change
the conversation
in the room.
On capacity, self-trust and the patterns that shape how women lead.
Thoughtful, direct and grounded in real life. Talks that make room for complexity without losing the people listening.
Invite Ralu to speak
17+ yearsCorporate experience
Published authorHappiness Is NOT Relatable
Health Radio UKGuest on Therapy Suite
Flamingo Business AwardsFinalist 2025 · Rising Star
Small Business AwardsFinalist 2025 · Female Entrepreneur of the Year
Oh my goodness you were amazing! So professional, so clear and captivating. […] Such an amazing guest speaker! So many light bulb moments 💕
A different lens on leadership
Your audience does not need to be told to believe in themselves.
They may already be holding a team, a business, a family or a room full of expectations together.
I help people see the patterns underneath that responsibility, and question the rules they have learnt to call normal. My work brings strategic thinking, psychology, sociology and somatic understanding into the same conversation, with warmth and a sense of humour.
Conversations I bring to the stage
The pattern beneath the decision
Approval, responsibility and identity: the invisible influences on how we choose.
Happiness Is NOT Relatable
The relationship between healing, belonging and the discomfort of no longer bonding over pain.
From approval-seeking to embodied authority
A closer look at confidence, safety and the capacity to take up your own position.
Ralu recently spoke for us at SparkTogether: The Holistic Parenting Conference 2025 and she was amazing, as always. Such an incredible talk that was beneficial for so many mummas. Thank you so much Ralu!
Thank you Ralu Atomei for sharing your no nonsense explanations and approach. I've heard a few different people talk about trauma coaching and sometimes it feels confusing, unobtainable or airy fairy! Your talk was succinct and accessible! Yay! Would love to work with you on a personal level one day ✨🙏.
On stage, on air & in conversation
Speaking
experience.
2026
September 2026Upcoming
Happiness Is NOT Relatable Experience Week and Signature Talk
Flourish Tribe Membership
An immersive experience built around Happiness Is NOT Relatable: Healing in a World That Bonds Over Pain.
September 2026Upcoming
Wellbeing Panellist
East of England Executive / Personal / Virtual Assistants Conference · Cambridge
A panel conversation on wellbeing for the people who support leaders and organisations.
April 2026
You Were Never Lacking Confidence. You Were Lacking Safety.
Empowered Women Empower Women · Diss
From Approval-Seeking to Embodied Authority. Rethinking confidence through nervous-system capacity.
April 2026
Happiness Is NOT Relatable
Holly Matthews’s Membership
Why healing can feel isolating when connection has been built around shared pain.
2025
3 November 2025
Be Resilient, Own Your Brilliance
Visible Fest
A Trauma-Informed Guide to Overcoming Imposter Syndrome.
October 2025
Therapy Suite with Gavin Jugmohun
Health Radio UK · Interview
Somatic work, the non-linear nature of healing, motherhood and business.
October 2025
Grounded Parent, Connected Child
SparkTogether Parenting Online Conference
A Trauma-Informed Guide to Seeing Beyond the Behaviour.
June 2025
Owning Your Brilliance: From Imposter Syndrome to CEO Energy
MIB Bury St. Edmunds networking event
Self-worth, leadership and the survival patterns that shape how women show up in business.
April 2025
How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs as a Woman in Business
Women Inspired Network networking event
How past experiences shape beliefs, overgiving and self-doubt, with practical somatic tools.
Inside organisations
The woman doing
the leading is part
of the system.
With more than 17 years of corporate experience, I understand the pressure around performance, decision-making and responsibility.
We can shape a talk or conversation around your organisation’s context, from women’s leadership networks to teams navigating change and competing demands.
Enquire about corporate workIt was an incredible speech. So informative, captivating and thought provoking. I’ve already told a number of people about you and the work you do. I felt privileged to be there to listen to what you said ❤️
Huge thanks to […] Ralu Atomei for your heart-touching and thought-provoking talk.
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